The gifts we are given in this life are amazing. One of these gifts is the great responsibility of parenting a little life that is helplessly depending on you for their every need in their season of growing. Motherhood is such a wide and vast subject to address because there are so many phases, levels and experiences that are discovered as the process of motherhood takes place. I believe that it’s important for those who are in their mothering season to embrace whatever part of the experience they are going through and to maximize it to it’s fullness. When you ask a mother what motherhood is, be ready to receive several different definitions based upon that mother’s experience and season of motherhood. But the one thing all mothers hold as a common ground is the love that they have for their children no matter the age.
Being a mother of 3 small children ages 4, 2 and one on the way this November, has given me so many experiences. My main experience as a mother in this season revolves around close care and nurturing my boys as they each develop in their individual ways. I honestly never imagined that I could be so tired, but at the end of each crazy energy filled day my reward is the satisfaction of knowing that each one of my heaven sent special gifts have been taken care of to the best of my ability. Mothering small children takes many small qualities that have to be developed as you go through each day. There are obviously many characteristics that must be developed in order to be a great parent. But first it’s important to acknowledge the fact that as a mother you will never be perfect. Imperfections and trial and error are inevitable. Four of the most important characteristics that can help you to be a great MasterMom, as I would call the mothering experience especially dealing with small children, are the following, patience, acceptance, organization and consistency.
From the moment you make the decision to conceive, or even if you find out and are completely surprised, the “journey of patience” will begin. As mothers, we wait 9 long months and struggle through some of the greatest emotions and physical changes in such a rapid time that all results in the birth of a beautiful living soul, your bundle of joy. Following your birth, the sleepless nights of feeding and diaper changes begins. If you’re a nursing mom, you’ll wait patiently for your milk to come in and then start the bonding that comes along with nursing your little angel. Each step of development of your little one gives you a deeper revelation of life and the blessing it is to have a baby. During the process of raising small children, you’ll lose your mind a time or two or wonder what you were thinking, but through all the mixed emotions, you’ll be led into the next characteristic of mothering, which is acceptance.
Throughout this experience, mothers tend to begin to level out their crazy emotions and negative thoughts that rise because of their fears & failed experiences from not feeling like the perfect mother because nursing your baby didn’t work out or the baby accidentally rolled off the bed. When mothers can accept the fact that they can only do the best that they can and mistakes come with the experience then the beginning stages of mothering can become more enjoyable than overwhelming. Sometimes you have to let the chips fall where they may.
Organization is another characteristic that will be the best friend of any mother of small children. It’s all about setting a pace and a plan and following through. But it’s important to remember that all won’t always go as planned and guess what, that’s ok! Children always thrive when they have order and direction and it keeps them from becoming overwhelmed, because they are being programmed to know what’s next. If you forget, don’t worry they will be sure to remind you.
Lastly, the characteristic of consistency is vital. Like I mentioned previously, little ones thrive off of order and direction. In my experience, my 4 year old does great when he’s on a schedule and is heavily occupied each day. Remember everyday of this new life for children is a growing, learning and exploring experience. This is why children get into everything, they don’t climb on the table and knock everything down to drive you nuts. They are simply exploring and learning. It’s so important as mothers to change your mindset and really study and invest in your little ones. By doing this, you are given more insight into who these little people are becoming and why they do what they do during their different periods of growth. Every mother should enjoy the experience and journey of motherhood. It shifts from one season to next so swiftly and you don’t want to miss any of the precious moments. Make a conscious decision to do the best that you can each day by consciously developing the needed tools so that your little legacies can enjoy the experience of you mothering them as well. Hold fast to these small tokens and enjoy the journey of motherhood.
With Lots of ❤️ MasterMom Tamia~